Blaming others is something we all do.
And some of us get really good at it. Even when there’s no apparent reason to blame someone, we’ll quickly find one.
As long as we pass the responsibility of our failures to someone else, we’re gold.
If you can identify yourself with the above, there’s no need to feel ashamed. I’ve been doing this for the bigger part of my life. Most of the time unconsciously.
Passing the blame flag to others is the easiest way to avoid the pain that comes with facing the truth. The bad news is that this “quick fix” doesn’t actually fix anything. If much, it sets you back on making real progress in your life.
When you start paying attention, you can easily spot the moments when you need to take responsibility.
And once you stop blaming everyone else for your own problems, you’ll start coming up with REAL solutions. Accept what is, change it if you want, and if you can. If you can’t change it, don’t beat yourself up over it. Do whatever you need to do and move on.
This is a continuous process, you’ll have to keep policing yourself. Every once in a while I catch myself steering toward the blame avenue, but now I’m quick to realise that this is my mind playing games – trying to offer the easy and quick fix, as it always did.
This is a great thing to start doing today. Be alert and you’ll spot yourself thinking about blaming someone, or something, over a situation that you’re the only responsible for whatever the outcome was.
Take responsibility. Embrace the challenges, for they come loaded with beautiful and fulfilling rewards as well.
This is your life – you’re the one in charge. Accept it, own it!
I’ll leave you with this great excerpt by Dr. Wayne Dyer:
“All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you. The only thing blame does is to keep the focus off you when you are looking for external reasons to explain your unhappiness or frustration. You may succeed in making another feel guilty about something by blaming him, but you won’t succeed in changing whatever it is about you that is making you unhappy.”