“my relationship didn’t work out.”
This is something I tend to disagree with, and I hear people say it all the time.
From my understanding, if you’re in a relationship with someone you love, for any period of time, it is working out. If the relationship ended, maybe it worked out for the time it was supposed to.
Now, if you’re in a relationship with someone you don’t love, and you say it isn’t working out. Well, no surprises, right? We gotta have the courage to let go and move on. Or accept feeling miserable in a dead relationship. This is specially true if you’re in any kind of abusive relationship. GET OUT! It’s NEVER too late.
I believe it’s embedded in our nature to wish for that fairy tale love. You know, that one relationship that will last forever.
It may sound like I’m a non-believer, a downer. Believe me, I’m a hopeless romantic. 🙂
I honestly believe that we are deserving of a fairy tale love.
what’s wrong with wanting a fairy tale relationship?
As long as you’re aware that relationships, as all things in this life, also have a beginning, a middle, and an end. Some will last a lifetime, others will last a couple of months, 3 years, 9 years. Who knows?
A 5 year relationship DID work out, for 5 years. For some reason we tend to take the negative approach after the relationship is over.
Try looking at it with a different point-of-view. Make a conscious choice to keep the good memories, to keep what “worked out”.
Easier said than done
Yes, much easier said than done. No doubt about it. Ending a meaningful relationship is never easy, and it will probably never be. But once you start looking at it with a different set of eyes, you will be able to accept it. And the faster you accept that it’s all a natural part of life, the faster you will put yourself in a position to live new experiences.
Keep an open mind. Know that your relationship was an amazing gift, a privilege. Don’t allow the negative (the bad), to overcome the positive (the good).
Give it time
It’s not easy. Don’t try to hide your pain. Let it flow naturally.
Some people go out on a rampage, believing binge partying/drinking will fill that emptiness. It may work temporarily. But in the end, you will have to face yourself. Focus on doing things that you truly enjoy instead, like reading and meeting with friends.
Let me just make it clear that I’m in no way encouraging people to give up on their relationships. You should definitely fight, with all you’ve got, if you feel it’s the right thing to do. Follow your heart, but don’t close your eyes.
It’s funny, for some reason I felt compelled to write about this. I’m not even in a relationship, nor brokenhearted. And I learned that it’s better to (almost) never give relationship advice.
This is not an easy subject to talk about, since each of us perceives love and relationship differently.
I felt like deleting this post at least 3 times while writing it. But I won’t.
I understand if you dislike it, no hard feelings. It’s just something I had to talk about.
I hope this will make sense, and maybe help someone out there.